As you know, I had a beautiful baby girl earlier this year and I’m a first time mum. Last week, I had a pretty rough night where my little one kept resisting to sleep in her bassinet every time me or my husband tried to put her down. We were both pretty knackered to a point where I gave in and let her sleep with us for the night which is a big fat NO! This inspired me to dedicate a post to new mums or mums who are expecting. I congratulate you for this precious little gift and know that you have a long road ahead of you. Giving birth and watching baby grow is an amazing feeling but also brings many emotions. I’d like to share with you some advice that I wish other mums shared with me.
Go with the flow
Yes, there are a lot of mums with a lot of experience who can sometimes tell you what to do. Keep in mind, everyone’s experience is different, the way you raise your child is different and the milestones your baby reaches will definitely differ to everyone else. Raise your child how you feel is best and do what’s best for you. Don’t let anyone tell you how your baby should be brought up and instead let things unfold itself. Do whatever works for you but also don’t be afraid to ask for advice when you need it.
Stay calm; be patient
I’ve been a stay at home mum since I gave birth and return to work mid January next year. It can be a bit much caring for baby myself when my husbands at work. At times, I find her crying a lot because she doesn’t want to be put down and left to play alone. Other times, she might resist her afternoon naps and prefers to be held then sleep in her bassinet. The key here is to not stress, stay as calm as you can and be patient. Understand that it’s okay to walk away sometimes and just let baby be. If you’re having a hard time, put her in her bassinet and take five minutes to yourself. It will do you good.
Love baby unconditionally but don’t forget to love yourself
Your baby deserves the best and everything you can give them. When you’re not playing with baby, you might be doing the laundry. When you’re not doing the laundry, you might be cleaning their bottles. And when you’re not cleaning bottles, you might be tidying the house. Babies can you keep you on your toes all day so you might forget to take care of yourself. The first couple of months until she was 3 months was fine for me because baby basically slept and only woke up for milk. Now she’s close to 6 months and I don’t get any “me time”. Make sure you take time out every week or when it suits you to take time out just for you. Let your husband, partner, friends or family babysit for part of the day so you can go out to do whatever it is you want to do.
It’s a new day
Each day is for it’s own so start each day as a fresh new day. Begin with no expectations and disregard what has happened yesterday. Focus on how your baby is today and let things unfold. Don’t focus on what your baby SHOULD be doing and what milestone they SHOULD have reached by now. All babies are different and they will do different things. Enjoy all the little things and all the little milestones baby reaches. If you have had a crappy day yesterday, start with a clear mind today and forget what happened before.
It pays off
Know that all the effort and hard work you go through now will all pay off in the long run. There have been many occasions where I have questioned myself as a mother and if I’m doing the right thing. But, the way her eyes light up at me is the most amazing feeling in the world. That makes forget all the hard times we are going through and pushes me and and my husband to keep getting stronger. Be happy that you’ve created and are bringing someone amazing into this world because there are so millions of people on earth who can’t have children at all.
I hope this has helped a few mums out there needing a pick me up! I know how much I would’ve appreciated it if I read a post like this while I was pregnant. There are many mums and many parents who are in the same shoes as you. Don’t be afraid to make friends with other parents as they can be very supportive. But remember, don’t let others compare or tell you exactly what you need to do. For all you other mums out there, what is your best advice or tips you live by?